Last weekend I watched the documentary “Marley.” The film detailed musician Bob Marley’s life. Around 30 minutes in, one of Marley’s friends (possibly a fellow Wailer) said, “Rasta say, the purpose of life is to be happy. Everybody supposed to be happy; and live in peace, love, and unity. Ya mon.” A wave of recognition washed over me. That feels about right. However, accepting that our life purpose may be something as simple as being happy is not easy. While I truly believe happiness is part of every soul’s mission, the path to that goal is unique for everyone and often takes some diversions along the way. Here are some of the steps and tools I have uncovered in finding and staying true to my life purpose.
Step 1: Embrace a Life of Purpose
“The purpose of life is a life of purpose.”
That quote is both profound and maddening. If you are seeking that “one thing” you are supposed to be doing or achieving, hearing such advice doesn’t feel particularly helpful. Still, accepting that purpose is part of your package is vital. Thankfully, in the circles I find myself these days, most people know that they want purpose in their life – that they want to serve humanity or be the best they can possibly be. That certainly isn’t true for every person. A large number of people are still not even awake to the fact that their time on earth has a common thread or goal, or that it even matters much at all (shudder). If you are even the slightest bit intrigued by the thought of having purpose, give yourself a pat on the back because you are surely on your way to uncovering why you are here.
Step 2: Have a Broad Vision
Some might say Bob Marley’s passion and life purpose was to make music. That is partly true. I remember distinctly the first time I ever heard, “No Woman No Cry.” It was my Freshman year of college and my next-door neighbor, a self-proclaimed “hippy” was playing Legend. I was so drawn in that I walked right into her room and asked, “What is this?” She was shocked at the question, and rightfully so. How did I actually make it through high school and never hear a Bob Marley album? Embarrassing really, but diversity was not big in my RI upbringing, so that musical gem escaped me.
Hearing the soulful chorus, “Everything’s gonna be all right. Everything’s gonna be all right now, Everything’s gonna be all right…No woman no cry!” made my heart swell. Being away from home, meeting so many new people, living with perfect strangers – was really hard on this introvert – hearing Marley’s words was such a source of comfort, support and love. That song still hits me right in the heart.
So while many may have seen Marley’s purpose as making music, after watching his personal interviews, along with those of his friends and loved ones, it is evident that his true purpose was much broader and ran far deeper. His purpose was to spread love.
If you can’t pinpoint that one job or role meant for you, perhaps it is because your purpose is much broader. Maybe you are meant to spread truth? Or, you are meant to make the world more beautiful through art? Maybe you are a natural leader or a compassionate caregiver? There is even the chance that you are just supposed to be so happy that you inspire others to be happy too. None of these themes point to a specific path or role, which I believe is the point. We all have free will, so even if we come into this world with a specific set of skills and gifts, we ultimately get to choose how we hone and use them in the manner that feels best.
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Resources for Finding Your Life Purpose
- “Finding Your Own North Star” – A comforting and inspiring work from one of my personal favorites, Martha Beck. It helps nudge you toward your personal truth.
- “The War of Art” – This book by Steven Pressfield made it clear to me that I was meant for creative work by affirming that art in all its forms is not easy for anyone!
- Waking Up – a previous post that offers questions to help you focus on what is important to you.
- Life Purpose Calculator – from Dan Milman. It helps you determine your life path number which offers interesting insight.
- Life Purpose Boot Camp – by Eric Maisel. This one is helpful because it helps you uncover what is meaningful to you in an 8-week, self-guided program.